Topic of the month: Self-care + 2019 Goals
It is the LAST day of January! Say WHAT?! We are a month into 2019, can you believe that?! Seriously, the days are long but the months are short. One of my personal goals going into 2019 was to invest more time in writing. My outlet for writing is this blog, its a place that I feel is a virtual diary and will be around for years to be able to look back and reflect upon. Motherhood is such an incredible and special experience and the moments, easy or hard, good or bad, go by quick; like realllll quick. I want to be able to look back at these times in my life and see how far I’ve come as a mother, a wife, and a friend. That’s what this is all about, and in order to hold myself accountable, I’ve recruited some mega moms with insane talent and all with a unique perspective of motherhood.
My main goal this year is to invest in myself… something that sounds so simple but is one of the biggest challenges I’ve faced since becoming a mom. Y’all with me on this? I NEVER understood, pre-baby, how some moms just didn’t make time for themselves or let their appearance slip until I became a mom. Let me tell you… what an idiot pre-baby Bonnie’s mentally was. No, Seriously, WHAT THE FUCK, was I thinking? Motherhood is the most selfless job in the world and self-care is not easy when you’re spending every waking moment raising a human.
With that said, after 10 months of raising a strong-willed child, my self-care went down the drain, and you know what went with it? My sanity! So here I am, almost a year postpartum, with gnarly roots, unshaved legs, two out of ten fingernails polished, an outdated wardrobe, no eyelashes, the 1990s overplucked eyebrows that are NOT colored in, a pedicure from 4-months ago and I am extremely out of shape for me. Zoom in and you will see I am not joking. Can you relate? That all ends this year!
I am sure you are wondering why this all matters? I will tell you why, because when you look like shit, which I do, you feel like shit, also which I do. Spending a few hours a week on my sanity, health, and appearance is necessary in order for me to be a strong and confident mother to Charlie. So here it is… my word to you all that I am going to invest more time in myself, even if that means showering every day as a starting point.
Where does that leave me now? Feeling extremely motivated and also super vulnerable posting that half-naked photo. Listen, I am not shy, BUT posting my postpartum body all over the internet is scary. So why do it? To inspire others, that’s why. It is hard not to compare ourselves to the skinny bitches ( I mean that in the nicest and most jealous way, calm down). I also do it to motivate myself not to be complacent but more importantly to find grace and love in a body that grew another human… Growing a human is something that I still can not wrap my head around.
There are going to be some of you who look at my photo and be like, “DAMNNNNNN GIRL- (fire emoji)” and then others who don’t understand why I would post such a thing (vomit face emjoi). The reality is that this isn’t about compliments or disses, It’s about my self-growth and acceptance. I cried after that photoshoot when I saw that photos and it reinforced the fact that my mindset NEEDS to change. I need to stop the self-hate talk and just fucking love myself. I need to tell you a secret, I am a glass and a half deep in wine, so I will not be held responsible for my words.
I will wrap this up and let you get on to the goods, which is the other mamas who shared their Self-care and Goals for 2019. Before I can let you do that though, I want you to all know that comparison is a thief and we all have different circumstances and that is why I find it important that we support and uplift each other on this postpartum journey, no matter where you are in it.
Without further ado, the ladies of the challenge…
Stephanie @theheartofahippie
2019 Goals
Josephine @better_as_us
How to Organize your home stress-free
Samantha @Samanthaheneghan
New Year- New Me
Lauren @simply_sweet_storeys shares How to crush your goals this year!
Cassandra @speersandarrows
The Struggle is Real
Rhiannon @Rhiannonjanee
How to save money on 1st Birthday parties
Hannah @mshannahzamora
A journey to a self care life
Courtney @cruisinwiththecarrs “New Year, who’s dis?”
Mia @thefallsteads “What is a SMART goal?”
Jenn @Onehoppymomma “No one said self-care was easy“
Devin @Devinfaith “2019 & the real feels“
Megan @naturalyspoiledmomma “All about me”
Bex @doseofbex “Self care- Goals for 2019″
Amanda @mamacitamandita “Treat yo’self 2019”
Karly @karlyleslie “The year to Simplify”
Breanna @bre_michaela ” New Year, New Mindset”
Next months topic is POSTPARTUM – this is going to be a series you will not want to miss! We all have struggled, changed or grew after becoming a mom and there is no doubt that this next series of blog post with hit home for you in one way or another.
Maria S. says
This is cool! Haven’t talked to you in forever! Hope your year is off to a great start! Anxiety is a bitch here and I started slow. Still slow!
admin says
HI!!!! I am trying to hold myself accountable by inviting other mamas to do the same so we can all grow this year! Anxiety is so real and I suffer too, praying it goes away for you! xoxo
Stevie says
You are amazing my friend! I love how you share your heart and the reality of life! 2019 is going to be an amazing year for you.